You're resisting someone's attempts to change you. Nobody likes feeling judged. Before digging in your heels, be honest about whether you would benefit from breaking a bad habit. Being more responsible with money, avoiding toxic substances and following through with promises are all worthy goals. Open yourself to the possibility of self improvement. You have the power to realise your full potential. It's just a matter of making an honest assessment of your strengths and weaknesses.

Distance is growing between you and a close friend. The two of you have different priorities now. Trying to talk is like visiting an alien planet. Neither one of you can understand what the other is experiencing. Resist the urge to cast judgment on each other. By giving each other a little more space, you will come back together when things aren't so hectic. Be respectful of the unique challenges your loved one is currently facing. You may be in their position sooner than you think.

Too much self denial will make you miserable. Although it is admirable you want to save money and get in shape, make sure your regime isn't too Spartan. Giving yourself an occasional reward will make sacrifices more meaningful. If you're looking for work, it may not be easy to find a job on your own. Contact a local university for work. You might find a wonderful opportunity through their career centre. Alternatively, there may be a position at the school that is tailor made for you.

Try not to rain on a loved one's parade. Just because you're not in a festive mood doesn't mean you should spoil a celebration for everyone else. Instead of sitting in the corner glowering, find ways to be useful. Serve drinks, put out food and answer the door. Eventually, your spirits will lift and you'll start having a good time, too. Resist the urge to talk about depressing news stories and illnesses. Have a list of upbeat topics ready for when conversations start to dry up.

It's hard to summon tender feelings for someone who is always so cold. Instead of trying your usual methods, take note of how this relative wants to be appreciated. Some people want hugs and kisses, while others prefer to be praised. Certain types just want to spend quality time with the ones they love. Some enjoy gifts. Find which modes of expression win favour with this family member and adapt your methods accordingly. You'll notice a tremendous improvement in your relationship.

You're worried you won't be able to get through your entire list of chores. Instead of putting even more pressure on yourself, give yourself permission to fall short of the mark. Doing a merely good job is fine, especially when you usually surpass everyone's expectations. While you take pride in rendering flawless performances, you have to admit this attitude is undermining your enjoyment of life. Let a couple of jobs fall through the cracks so you can have a little more leisure time.

A pessimistic attitude towards money is hampering your ability to attract more income. Instead of settling for jobs that don't pay very well, set your sights on a career that offers both good pay and long term stability. If you're worried about your future security, take out an insurance policy. Knowing you are protected against disaster will bring peace of mind. Do a little research into the types of policies available. There's no point in throwing money away on one that doesn't serve your needs.

Don't let a stern attitude stop you from enjoying family fun. Everyone's desire to go out and enjoy themselves may seem frivolous at first. Instead of bucking the trend, try entering into the festivities. Your grim outlook will give way to pleasure. Lately, you've been focusing so much on responsibility that you've forgotten your capacity for joy. Take your cues from a younger person who is eager to forget their troubles.

Burying your head in the sand won't solve a pressing dilemma. You have to face some unpleasant facts regarding a relative. This family member may be suffering from an addition or illness that requires professional treatment. You can't continue covering for their mistakes and providing for their needs. There are support groups for people in your situation. Attend a few meetings. Knowing you are not alone will give you the courage to set some healthier boundaries.

A certain friendship has become more of a burden than a blessing. It may be time to cut ties with someone who is always asking for financial and emotional support, yet offering none in return. It's always difficult for you to end relationships, because you're afraid of being alone. Actually, you are capable of forming very supportive ties. People respect and admire you. They also love your dry sense of humour. Stop selling yourself short and seek the substantial friendships you deserve.

It feels like you're always falling short of an authority figure's expectations. It may be time to schedule a talk with your boss. Explain why you find it difficult to succeed. Give concrete examples of remarks that have taken the wind out of your sails. The two of you may decide it is time for you to find other employment. If that's the case, don't worry. You'll find a position that offers the professional and emotional fulfilment you know you need.

You're not in the mood to attend a workshop or class. It feels like you're always being expected to hone your skills without getting anything in return. If you feel undervalued, ask for a raise or promotion. Look for a job that offers a better salary than the one you are currently earning. Are positions in your present industry drying up? You may benefit from switching fields, but you will have to get additional training. Choose a line of work where you can use your skills and talents.