Failure should not lead to regret as negative thinking could stop you trying again. Why wish you had never begun on a challenging endeavour just because your first attempt falls short of your expectations? All it means is you haven't quite perfected the skill or gained the knowledge necessary to be successful. Stop any regretful thoughts in their track as this will fuel reasons to give up entirely when you should be going back and trying again.

What people value, believe and even expect in time to come all has a big affect on relationships. If you don't share the same goals, a friendship will eventually peter out. If you value honesty and faithfulness but a partner is secretive and wants more independence, it's going to take work to make this relationship last. Before making joint commitments get to know others by keeping your eyes and ears open. If there is any doubt, hold back.

You're smart enough to know it does matter even when someone tells you that they aren't bothered. If you sense anyone is upset despite them not wanting to admit it, a little discreet questioning will soon help you work out what's on their mind. You may not fully understand why they feel so hurt or upset but you do respect their feelings. In return, they will appreciate your sensitivity. A good day for a heart to heart talk with a loved one.

If a partner wants to experiment with other relationships they aren't as committed to you as they say they are. If you love someone, you're tempted to let go in the hope they will come back. They may well do so, again and again, as they have flirtatious fun knowing you will always be there to return to. There's a limit to how lenient you should be in your relationships. If you both want it to be forever, neither of you should be scouting around, looking for someone else.

You're on the verge of deciding to commit permanently to a group or work project. Reaching this decision has not been easy and may have caused tension in a close relationship. There are always risks involved when making changes that will affect your long term future and you desperately need the support of your loved one's behind you. It might feel like you're climbing a terrifying mountain because you have no idea where you're going but you do hope it's in the right direction.

No matter how fractious a relationship becomes, don't be the one who makes all the sacrifices for the sake of harmony. Even if a partner has big dreams for themselves and you have contacts that might help them realise their ambitions, don't feel obliged to use your connections to help them out. Take the high road because the low road is filled with pitfalls and problems. Anyone who has set their sights high should be prepared to work for it without dragging you into their dreams and schemes.

Every time something comes up there is someone who seems to think they can take over and make all the decisions. You're starting to feel as if they're treating you like a child. You aren't being picky about every little detail when your mind keeps bringing up all that you disapprove of in this relationship. This is necessary for you to realise how long this situation has been going on and for you to decide how much longer you're going to put up with it.

Explain your reasons quickly if you sense someone doesn't understand your need to have a little time to yourself. It might be that you're in a creative mood and wish to work on a writing or art project without any distractions. If you're in a new romantic relationship, this has changed the dynamics of your life. You cherish the time you spend together but still need time on your own to be the person you were before you became a couple.

If long working hours are stopping you building a close relationship or socialising, find a way to remedy this. Why not tweak your schedule so you have some time to at least talk to your partner or see your friends. Working all hours will not only exhaust you but you will start feeling left out of social arrangements and miserable too. Remember, no one owes you happiness and it's up to you to arrange your life so there's a balance between work and play.

Rules need to be applied sensibly so you don't annoy other people. There's a sense of urgency in some matters but that's no reason to get overbearing. These may be tough times but everyone's feeling the pressure and no one wants to be reminded about having to stick to the rules. If bypassing some procedures makes the job easier, it can sometimes make sense to break a few rules. Try to be more flexible today.

Not being able to switch off or always worrying about the next day makes it hard for you to sleep at night. Worrying about a lack of sleep is almost becoming a phobia and is lowering your resistance to infection and other illnesses. If you're noticing your relationships with your partner and children are suffering because you're worn out, you need to change your routines so you relax more and combat insomnia.

Avoid getting involved in a row or controversy that's going on around you. If you are dragged into this argument you would only be leaving yourself open to criticism. Instead, just keep your head down and try not to get hit by the fallout. Why should you take sides in a dispute that you'd rather not get involved in? Leave others to sort out their problems on their own and ask that they leave you to get on with your own business.